Social and Emotional Learning (SEL) encompasses the core emotional intelligence and relationship-building skills that lead to happy, healthy and successful lives.
We are not born with these skills and behaviors, but they can be learned and nurtured to influence positive changes that are almost immediately recognizable.
Now, more than ever, our children need social and emotional support as they are forced to navigate an uncertain future while trying to also manage stress, anxiety, isolation, lack of motivation and a host of other developmental challenges that have been exacerbated by the impact of COVID-19.
Our unique “HOW-TO” program includes videos with real coaches and real kids walking through key exercises from Caroline’s book “Why Will No One Play With Me,” offering coaches real world examples and applications to model with their own clients (and/or their clients’ parents.)
Delivered as a convenient and affordable monthly subscription, the How To SEL series offers a variety of opportunities to learn from and engage with social learning experts through quick and convenient video lessons and live monthly Q&As.
Here are just a few examples of how our bite-sized videos make it fun and easy to learn and teach social and emotional skills to kids of all ages.
You are invited to use/view all of the content and videos during coaching sessions with your paid subscription.
100% of the proceeds for this subscription are being donated to the Jesse Lewis Choose Love Movement to support free SEL programming for schools, homes and communities.
Caroline earned her undergraduate degree at Trinity College and her Masters of Education and Early Childhood Development with a specialization in social emotional learning (SEL) at Lesley University. Caroline is the author of the award winning book, Why Will No One Play With Me?, a playbook of foolproof scripts on social skills development.
She is the founder of a comprehensive Social Emotional Learning (SEL) training methodology for adults, parents, clinicians and academic professionals on how to cultivate emotional regulation, emotional intelligence, social-awareness and responsible decision-making skills. She is the founder and director of The Fundamentals of ADHD Coaching for Families training curriculum at ADD Coach Academy (ADDCA) – the only Coach Training program accredited by the International Coach Federation (ICF).
After several years as a highly respected social skills clinician at the Hallowell Center Boston MetroWest, Ms. Maguire formed her own private practice. She is a sought-after lecturer and workshop facilitator on various topics related to social, emotional and behavioral learning. She is a permanent columnist on social skills in ATTitude Magazine, a favored contributor to U.S. News & World Report, Mind Body Green, Salon, Huffington Post, Today Parenting, ADDitude, Attention Magazine and WebMD. Follow her @AuthorCarolineM
More than 30 years of scientific research proves that children who have access to the skills and tools taught through SEL grow into more successful and healthy adults.
Overall they have a deeper sense of self, commitment to community and learned compassion for others. This results in lower violent crime and incarceration rates, alcohol and drug abuse, and instances of mental illness.
Developing Social Emotional Learning skills can benefit ALL ages, and the lessons we cover can be applied to a broad range of scenarios!
Although we focus many of the activities and demonstrations on younger children (ages 6-12,) we also include practices and activities that can benefit teens and adults, as well.
Yes, if you select the monthly subscription plan, you can cancel anytime after the first 3 months of your subscription.
As each new month of lessons becomes available, you will have unlimited access to the content via your Digital Lessons Library.
You can learn more about Caroline Maguire here and Scarlett Lewis and the Jesse Lewis Choose Love Movement here.
Yes, we know that coaches will benefit from utilizing these skills and tools with their clients and encourage you to adapt them to your unique practice. We do request that each professional wishing to directly access the content purchases their own subscription, as ‘sharing’ subscriptions among multiple users is not permitted.
We would be happy to discuss your specific requirements and discount options for purchases of 6 or more subscriptions. Please email us at [email protected] to inquire, and be sure to leave your phone number so we can follow up.
Our educator licenses are intended for larger audiences and include multi-person access with a significant discount. Please email us for details and a quote.
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Coping with your emotions is a life skill, and the ability to not just push them down but actually process them – and have a go-to kit to practice that – is something EVERY parent and EVERY teacher can help children develop.
YOU are the expert when it comes to your child (or children). You are their parent and you know your child better than anybody else. What we will be sharing with you will help you to be the best parent that you can be.
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Each month, you will receive 3 video lessons and one activity for children, all of which have been selected because they can be easily modified for multiple ages.
Two of the videos feature Caroline Maguire actually coaching a child using a strategy from her book Why Will No One Play With Me? and the third video is a Master Class with Scarlett Lewis exploring strategies and techniques to help adults cope with the topic of that month.
There is no right or wrong way to “practice” this program; it was intentionally designed to be flexible. We encourage you to complete the monthly lessons and activity at whatever pace you feel best works for your child/children/students, keeping in mind that there are a variety of ways to apply the lessons (watch it with child, or without, etc) and a variety of circumstances during which a lesson concept could be discussed or reinforced.
There are times when you may think that you are the only family struggling to get it right. Many parents sacrifice their hobbies and free time to manage homework, plan meals and taxi their children while our children exhibit higher levels of anxiety than ever before in history.
This month we tackle how to be aware of our own and others’ feelings. Highly emotionally intelligent people do this all the time. This critical life skill can be developed at any age.
Sometimes it can feel like you’re the only family struggling to get it right. This month we tackle how to be aware of our own and others’ feelings. Highly emotionally intelligent people do this all the time. This critical life skill can be developed at any age.
Unpleasant thoughts can get “stuck” in our minds, and if allowed to grow and fester, they can become distressing. We may feel powerless if we worry about them excessively. This month we explore strategies to recognize their signals, reduce sensitivity to these thoughts, and react in a thoughtful and healthy manner.
The ability to “read a room” plays a significant role in building confidence. Comparing our behaviors, interactions and dialog to others’ is a critical life skill. To join a game or conversation in progress, and then to be accepted into the group, requires the ability to observe and adapt. This month we’ll learn how to “spy” – discretely and respectfully – in order to gather data on how other children/people interact.
Every environment and situation has its own set of unspoken social rules – subtle and nuanced ways of how you are expected to behave – that dictate what behavior is appropriate. The more we can learn about how people behave, the easier it is for us to feel comfortable around them. It is important to pause and think through the expectations of a social situation.
This month we show you how to help a child pause and interpret facial expressions, body language, mental states, etc; discuss both of your observations. creating an image of positive interaction and adjust behavior to meet those expectations.
Listening and responding are important social skills. To communicate effectively, we need to understand the message. Communication can break down and the sender of the message can become frustrated or irritated if the message wasn’t correctly delivered.
This month we show you how to help a child actively listen, look like they are listening, not “over-talk” the other person and demonstrate the skill of what really listening looks like.
This month we examine how to tune into the subtleties of mood and reading another’s energy level. Energy tells us so much about another person’s mood. People’s voice, what they say, and their body language can alert you to their energy.
This month we show you how to help a child consider and interpret the energy of the person they are speaking to, interpret others’ mood and how it affects the conversation and adapt their approach to match the others’ energy.
Mental flexibility involves the ability to adapt and shift the course of thought or action depending on the situation. It requires willingness to move forward in less regimented ways.
This month we show you how to help a child develop a more flexible mindset. adjust to daily tasks, roles and responsibilities and reduce daily stress.
Empathy is a social emotional learning skill that needs to be taught. Research has shown that people who cannot imagine another person’s inner emotional life, who cannot manage their emotions and who cannot read the room, struggle in the workplace and are less successful than people who have critical social emotional skills.
The child or adult who lacks empathy can be seen as uninteresting, selfish, boring and self-absorbed. Parents and teachers can teach empathy. This training can actually save this child from years of pain and isolation. Remember Empathy is related to Compassion, and who doesn’t need more of that?
Perspective taking involves considering the mental states of others (motivations, intentions, desires, knowledge, beliefs) and is exercised in almost every human connection. When we are able to consider a situation from someone else’s point of view and imagine how they might feel, think, or act, we can develop empathy.
This month we show you how to help a child point out the emotions of others, as well as their own, consider the audience and anticipate others’ motives.
How effectively we can monitor and manage our energy, emotions, stressors, thoughts, and behaviors is directly related to self-regulation skills. The ability to remain calm – even during big emotions – in order to adapt and respond appropriately will allow children to do well in school, with friends, and at home.
This month we show you how to help a child respond to a range of emotions in socially appropriate ways, remain sufficiently flexible and delay spontaneous reactions in order to engender positive well-being, loving relationships, and healthy learning environments.
Filtering information and topics enables us to tune into what is relevant and to delete what is inappropriate.
This month we show you how to help a child focus on the other person, their thoughts and feelings; pay attention to non-verbal messages and listen for the speaker’s thoughts, ideas and meaning.
You will receive access to Month 1 content via email immediately upon registration; consecutive months will become available through your Digital Library every 30 days. You will receive a notification by email each time a new month is available.
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