Frequently Asked Questions

SEL stands for  Social and Emotional Learning – the process through which children and adults acquire and effectively apply the knowledge, attitudes, and skills necessary to build healthy, healing relationships, develop resiliency and make responsible decisions.
 
CASEL’s 5 competencies are self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, relationship skills, and responsible decision-making. 
 
At the Jesse Lewis Choose Love Movement, we believe that SEL also needs to include character education, positive psychology, neuroscience, growth mindset and post traumatic growth.
 
 

More than 30 years of scientific research proves that children who have access to the skills and tools taught through SEL grow into more successful and healthy adults.

Overall they have a deeper sense of self, commitment to community and learned compassion for others. This results in lower violent crime and incarceration rates, alcohol and drug abuse, and instances of mental illness.

When you are feeling angry, irritated, overwhelmed, struggling to initiate caring communication, and bewildered by others’ choices and self-awareness, you are in the midst of a SEL experience.
 
You can adapt to and adopt effective strategies, or you can succumb to its effects.
 
Life skills do not just include knowing math, geography and how to balance a checkbook. They include the ability to read a room, manage emotions and self manage.
 
The “whole person” theory includes all elements of human development. SEL development is an integral part of this theory. Without attending to our relationships, and managing our emotions, we will not be able to come out the other side “whole” and “united”.
When parents practice right alongside the kids… it facilitates parent/child interactions, and it benefits you – in your relationships with yourself, colleagues and neighbors. 
 
When you learn to become more self-aware, you will notice your fearful emotional response when your child is struggling or fails to come home on time. You will feel your heart beat faster and possibly clench your stomach. You may have the desire to do something erratic, but you then recognize that this behavior is a result of emotions and thoughts running amok. 
 
Using Scarlett’s self-management and self-awareness strategies will help you learn to accept that these reactions are common when you experience anxiety and you can calm yourself down and implement her suggestions. 
 
The next time you experience these anxiety symptoms, you will be able to stop the escalation. You will remember learning from Scarlett that when you felt the terror, you could change how you feel by thinking differently about the situation. 
 
 
  1. When you first subscribe, you will receive a welcome email from Scarlett and Caroline with a video and the link to your Digital Lessons Library, where your Monthly Lesson Pages will be made available in 30-day increments.  Month 1 will be available about 15 days after you susbscribe, to give you time to receive your SELabration Starter Kit in the mail.
  2. Within about 5 business days, we will have your “SELabration” Starter Kit in the mail – it will be shipped Priority Mail so you will likely receive it within the next 10 days.
  3. Your Kit will include Caroline Maguire’s best-selling book “Why Will No One Play With Me?” which is what will serve as the foundation of our ongoing How-To lessons.   The Kit will also include Scarlett Lewis’s memoir, a journal, a “spy kit” for kids, and a few other fun goodies from the Choose Love Movement shop.
  4. About 10 days after your receive your Kit, you will receive an email notifying you that the Month 1 Lesson Page is now available through your Dashboard.  The email will include a link to your Dashboard, where you will then be able to view the lessons for that month.  You will be notified via email each time a new Monthly Lesson Page is available.
  5. Your Monthly Lesson Page will also include the details of Scarlett and Caroline’s Live Q&A session that month, as well as a convenient form that you can use to submit questions in advance of each Live session.
  6. Your Digital Lessons Library also provides you the ability to customize your subscription experience and engage with other subscribers in Forum discussions, and includes an Additional Resources section where Scarlett and Caroline share their Top 3 picks for a variety of additional podcasts, newsletters and subject experts related to parenting and education best practices.

Yes, if you select the monthly subscription plan, you can cancel anytime after the first 3 months of your subscription.

Developing Social Emotional Learning skills can benefit ALL ages, and the lessons we cover can be applied to a broad range of scenarios!

Although we focus many of the activities and demonstrations on younger children (ages 6-12,) we also include practices and activities that can benefit teens and adults, as well.

We would be happy to discuss your specific requirements and discount options.  Please email us at support@howtosel.com to inquire, and be sure to leave your phone number so we can follow up.

Yes, please send the order information to orders@jesselewischooselove.org and we will be in touch.

Yes, we would be happy to assist you.  Email us at support@howtosel.com and we’ll do our best to help!

The How To SEL subscription is being hosted and maintained by Scarlett Lewis’s nonprofit organization, Jesse Lewis Choose Love Movement.  Your purchase will be made via their secure server and your receipt (and future communications relating to your subscription/ account) will come from a “ChooseLoveMovement.org” email address.

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