Anger, she said, is a secondary emotion, with an underlying cause. A compassionate response to anger would be to seek the more accurate emotion beneath it.

Many people have heard of post-traumatic stress disorder, she said, but few have heard of post-traumatic growth, even though it’s what “the vast majority of us experience following a trauma.”

In recovering from something terrible, people strengthen relationships, weed out weak ones, deepen their spirituality, find strength they didn’t know they had, and practice mindfulness, gratitude and well-being.

Feeling good results from knowing what brings you satisfaction, thinking about what is right with you, dwelling on positive emotions and engaging in something worthwhile.

Jesse was remembered for his courage, his mother said. “That is the same courage that every single one of us has within us,” she told the audience. Courage is the willingness and the ability to do the right thing, and it’s effective against bullying.

She defined forgiveness as cutting the cord that binds you to the pain the other person caused.

People’s actions have a tremendous ripple effect, she said, citing a study that said every action ripples out to about 3,000 people. “You guys are incredibly powerful,” she said.