Choosing Love to Overcome Loneliness

May 13, 2024 | General, Scarlett's Blog

by Scarlett Lewis, Chief Movement Officer
In our modern world, loneliness has emerged as a silent epidemic. Recent studies reveal a startling trend: a significant portion of the population reports feeling lonely regularly, with the American Psychological Association noting a marked increase in loneliness over the past few decades. This rise is paradoxical in an era connected by digital threads, leaving us questioning why, amid countless ways to communicate, we feel more disconnected than ever.

The Roots of Modern Loneliness

Several factors contribute to this widespread sense of isolation. The advent of technology and social media, despite providing platforms for virtual connectivity, often replaces deep, meaningful human interactions with superficial engagements. Urbanization and the breakdown of traditional community networks also play a role, as does the cultural valorization of independence, which sometimes leads to self-isolation.

A Path Through: The Choose Love Formula

Amidst this landscape of isolation, the “Choose Love” formula presents a beacon of hope. This formula—composed of courage, gratitude, forgiveness, and compassion in action—offers not just a method for combating loneliness but a transformative approach to living.


Firstly, courage allows us to confront our loneliness head-on. This might mean having the bravery to acknowledge and accept our moments of solitude, understanding that being alone doesn’t equate to being lonely. It also entails the valor to step out of our comfort zones—be it joining a new community, starting a conversation with a stranger, or exploring an unfamiliar hobby. Such acts of bravery not only open us up to new connections but also reinforce our self-worth and independence.


Next, gratitude shifts our focus from what we’re missing to the abundance we already possess. By appreciating the relationships we have, and even the small moments of connection in our day-to-day life, we change our lens on the world. This positive outlook makes us more attractive and approachable to others, fostering connections that alleviate loneliness.


Forgiveness plays a crucial role by freeing us from past grievances. Holding onto resentment or regret can be isolating, creating barriers between us and potential connections. By letting go of these negative feelings and perhaps reaching out to mend broken relationships, we open ourselves up to new possibilities for companionship and understanding.

Compassion in Action

Lastly, compassion in action involves extending empathy and care beyond ourselves. Engaging in acts of kindness—volunteering, helping a neighbor, or simply lending an ear to someone in need—creates a bridge of mutual understanding and support. In helping others, we not only combat our own feelings of loneliness but contribute to a larger culture of connection and empathy.
Loneliness, though a challenging adversary, is not insurmountable. By Choosing Love and embracing its components—courage, gratitude, forgiveness, and compassion—we can forge connections that are deep, meaningful, and genuine. This approach does not just fill the void of loneliness; it enriches our lives and the lives of those around us. In the end, choosing love is perhaps the most powerful antidote to loneliness, lighting a path towards a more connected and fulfilling life.

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Nurturing Healing Love: A Mother’s Journey of Hope & Forgiveness was written by Scarlett Lewis, founder of the Jesse Lewis Choose Love Movement. In this emotional, thought-provoking and inspiring book, Lewis takes you into the story of her life and shares how she found the courage through her son’s words to Choose Love and forgiveness. Read about how she changed her life, and how you can change your life, too.
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