by Scarlett Lewis, Chief Movement Officer, Choose Love Movement
In the aftermath of tragedy, we often seek answers—why did this happen? What could have been done differently? Dr. Stuart Brown, a psychiatrist and researcher, found himself on such a quest after the University of Texas tower shooting in 1966. As he investigated the life of the shooter, Charles Whitman, Brown discovered something profound: a childhood devoid of play. This revelation led him on a journey to study other violent criminals, uncovering a common thread among them—a severe lack of unstructured, joyful play in their early years.
Through his extensive research, Brown examined the lives of mass murderers and found that this absence of play had profound consequences. Without play, children miss out on critical opportunities to develop social skills, problem-solving abilities, emotional resilience, and the capacity for empathy. Play is not simply about having fun; it is essential to human development, shaping how we interact with the world and with one another.
Brown went on to write the groundbreaking book Play: How It Shapes the Brain, Opens the Imagination, and Invigorates the Soul, in which he explored the biological necessity of play. He detailed how play enhances brain function, fosters creativity, strengthens relationships, and even contributes to emotional well-being. His work underscores that play is not a frivolous activity but a fundamental aspect of a healthy, balanced life—one that helps prevent aggression and cultivates compassion.
This research takes on even deeper significance in the context of the Sandy Hook tragedy. My son, Jesse Lewis, a bright and courageous six-year-old, left a simple yet profound message for his big brother, JT, before his life was taken: “Have a Lot of Fun.” Those five words serve as a guiding light in the movement that I created in his honor—the Choose Love Movement™. In a world that can often feel heavy, Jesse’s words remind us that fun is not optional—it is essential. By embracing play in our daily lives, we are not only honoring his message, but also reinforcing the very foundation of the Choose Love Movement: courage, gratitude, forgiveness, and compassion-in-action. Through play, we create a world where love is not just a choice but a way of life.
Scarlett recognized that Jesse’s message wasn’t just about fun—it was about the power of play, joy, and connection as essential parts of Choosing Love. This is an integral part of the Choose Love Movement™, ensuring that play, laughter, and joy are included throughout curriculum. The Movement teaches children and adults that Choosing Love means embracing playfulness, fostering strong relationships, and building resilience in the face of adversity.
Dr. Stuart Brown’s research and Jesse’s message converge on a vital truth: play is not just a pastime; it is a pathway to a more compassionate world. When we prioritize play, we nurture empathy, reduce stress, and create environments where love thrives. Play is how we build connection, how we heal, and how we ultimately Choose Love™.
In a world that can often feel heavy, Jesse’s words remind us that fun is not optional—it is essential. By embracing play in our daily lives, we are not only honoring his message, but also reinforcing the very foundation of the Choose Love Movement: courage, gratitude, forgiveness, and compassion-in-action. Through play, we create a world where love is not just a choice but a way of life.
