My name is Scarlett Lewis, and I’m the founder of the Jesse Lewis Choose Love Movement. This initiative started with three words written on a kitchen chalkboard by my six-year-old son, Jesse McCord Lewis, on the morning of December 14, 2012. He wrote, “nurturing, healing, love.” He lost his life later that day alongside six educators and 19 of his classmates at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Connecticut. His message constitutes a powerful formula for choosing love. 

The Jesse Lewis Choose Love Foundation is a 501(c)(3) charitable organization committed to reaching students, educators, and individuals, both nationally and internationally, with a simple, yet profound formula for choosing love. Our signature program uses “nurturing, healing, love” as a foundation for learning and for life. 


Choosing love means having the courage to be grateful when life isn’t easy, to forgive even when the person who hurt you isn’t sorry, and to step outside your own pain to help someone else. It’s an empowering lesson that love is a choice. 

Almost half of our young people will have a diagnosable mental illness by the time they are 18 years old (“Child Mind Institute,” 2016). Children today are under more stress than children of previous generations. The most common diagnosis will be anxiety, and the majority will not get professional help (Bluth & Blanton, 2014). The average onset age for anxiety is six years old. The long-term effects of anxiety are mental illness, substance abuse, anger, violence, and incarceration (Harbaugh & Vasey, 2014). It’s not a mystery why we have issues in our schools and society. The solution is teaching children to choose love. 

Children who feel connected, who are resilient, and who can reciprocate love won’t want to harm each other (Garney, 2016). We can teach children to choose love. Love is a universal need, the lack of which can be devastating. That’s why I started the Choose Love Movement. 

Over 30 years of research substantiates the benefits of social and emotional learning (SEL) (“CASEL: What is SEL,” 2016). SEL lays the groundwork for academic learning and responsible citizenship. It has been proven to increase grades, attendance, and focus while reducing aggression, anxiety, substance abuse, and other issues (“CASEL: What is SEL,” 2016). SEL fills a critical role in improving children’s academic performance and lifelong learning (Zins, Bloodworth, Weissberg & Walberg, 2004). Children who are aware of their emotions and have good planning skills by the time they enter school are also at lower risk for problems with aggression and anxiety disorders (Greenberg, Kusch, & Mihalic, 1998). 

Students aren’t the only ones to benefit from SEL. Schools are challenged by teacher attrition and unsafe learning environments (“CASEL: What is SEL,” 2016). When educators teach SEL, they help students create safe, loving, and healthy problem-solving communities that enhance teachers’ ability to teach as well as students’ ability to learn (CASEL: Outcomes Associated with Five Competencies, 2016). 

Our program is a social and emotional learning (SEL) program that fuses SEL with character education, positive psychology, emotional intelligence, neuroscience, and mindfulness. These branches of knowledge, and the essential principles highlighted in our program, have decades of scientific and qualitative research supporting their effectiveness. In addition, each of the character values in the Choose Love Formula (Courage+Gratitude+Forgiveness+Compassion in Action), which are at the heart of our program, have strong evidence supporting their many benefits. We discuss these in greater detail in each introduction to our program and in the Educator Guide.”

Choose Love For Schools teaches skills and concepts that are grounded in and support Social and Emotional Learning (SEL), addressing the 5 Core Competencies as defined by CASEL (Self-Awareness, Self-Management, Social Awareness, Relationship Skills, and Responsible Decision-Making Skills). SEL has decades of research validating its tremendous and positive impact on students’ social and emotional well-being as well as on academic and personal success. For more information on SEL and specific research on SEL, we encourage you to visit where you can be linked to SEL research and its impressive benefits. 

Overall, Scientific research proves that teaching evidence-based SEL in the classroom significantly benefits all children, including those with special needs– that is, academically, behaviorally, physically, mentally and socio-emotionally. To summarize the research data referenced above, benefits include improvements in social cognitive skills, self-control, and frustration tolerance; decreased anxiety, depression, sadness, and withdrawal; improved classroom atmosphere; less aggression and self-destructive behavior, including drug-use initiation; better scores on standardized achievement tests; more assertive social skills, effective conflict resolution, and increased pro-social behaviors, as well as less violence and more empathy. 

For the 2021-2022 school year, our program has been updated to align with’s new Model Standards for Character and Social-Emotional Development. These standards include the 5 core components of SEL (Self-awareness, Self-management, Social awareness, Interpersonal/relationship skills, Responsible & Ethical decision-making) as well as Moral, Performance, Intellectual and Civic character strengths. 

Aside from the foundational and guiding evidence-based and research-grounded competencies and principles which comprise our program, the Choose Love Enrichment Program package has been systematically evaluated by The University of Arkansas researchers, Dr. David D. Christian, PhD, LPC-S Assistant Professor of Counselor Education & Kristin K. Higgins, PhD, LPC-S Associate Professor of Counselor Education Department of Rehabilitation, Human Resources, and Communication Disorders College of Education and Health Professions University of Arkansas et al., who assessed our program in an alternative school setting. The preliminary findings showed positive impacts and results, which have been submitted for publication in a peer-reviewed journal. 

In addition, during the school year of 2016-2017, Ka’elepulu Elementary Elementary School in Kailua Hawaii was the first pilot school to implement the Choose Love Enrichment Program. The administration conducted its own research within its classrooms that resulted in substantial positive outcomes in all areas. The reported outcomes of this study can be reviewed here.  

While not intended to scientifically assess the effectiveness of the program, we also collect survey-based program evaluation data annually for quality improvement purposes, where we survey all users about their experience and satisfaction with the program. Of respondents (N=277) to the 2019 Choose Love Educator Survey (feedback from 44 states):

  • 99% said that they have seen an improvement in classroom climate and in the students’ overall behavior
  • 73% said that their students get along better
  • 81% said their students have a more positive attitude
  • 62% have seen an increase in academic performance in their students
  • 95% rated the program ‘good’, ‘very good’, or ‘excellent’
  • 99% said they enjoyed teaching the program
  • 96% said their students enjoyed the program

Another study was recently performed to investigate the perceptions of educators towards their role with meeting the social and emotional needs of students, as well as how educators and students experience participation in a school-based social emotional learning (SEL) program, with particular focus on the experience of educators and students participating in the Jesse Lewis Choose Love Enrichment Program. Data were collected through a qualitative multiple case study design, resulting in the following themes: Perceived Role of SEL in Schools, Purpose of SEL Instruction, SEL Implementation Requirements, and Benefits of SEL. Educators and students were in agreement about program outcomes. View complete study here.

Of additional interest might be the adoption of the Choose Love For Schools program by the state of New Hampshire.  In 2018, Gov. Chris Sununu’s School Safety Preparedness Task Force recommended that it was necessary to expand SEL statewide. Equipped with this knowledge, Gov. Sununu made implementing CLEP a statewide initiative (the first in the nation to do so). To support this initiative, Gov. Sununu hired support and our team is working closely with his office as well as the office of Homeland Security to ensure all schools have the proper channels to teach the program effectively. Here is the first year report of Choose Love implementation in NH. 

Last and certainly not least, we have an extensive database of qualitative data in the form of testaments, educator feedback, student work samples, personal testimonies, and more, praising the Choose Love Enrichment program and its impact on students, classrooms, and schools. This rich qualitative data highlights the personalized ways in which the Choose Love Enrichment Program goes beyond a program by initiating a daily practice whereby educators and students, classrooms and schools, create and sustain a positive culture of love. It has been amazing to hear and read about how students have been individually and collectively empowered as they are better able to handle emotions, are able to be resilient in the face of adversity, can connect in meaningful ways with their peers, are engaged in a positive classroom culture, and are able to make healthy, responsible choices that better their lives and the lives of others. This qualitative data is what we consider to be some of the most valid and important data of all. 


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The Choose Love For Schools™ Program is a Pre-K through 12th grade curriculum that emphasizes the simple, universal teachings of courage, gratitude, forgiveness, and compassion in action. The lessons are divided into these four units, which create a formula for choosing love: 

The Choose Love Formula™  

Courage + Gratitude + Forgiveness + Compassion in Action = Choosing Love 

The Choose Love For Schools™ Program teaches the foundational concepts and skills of social and emotional learning (SEL), and is informed by current neuroscience. The goal of the program is to provide children with the knowledge, attitude, and skills they need to choose love in any situation. These abilities include: 
  • Understanding and managing emotions (self-awareness and self-management); 
  • Setting and achieving positive goals; Feeling and displaying empathy and compassion for others (social awareness); 
  • Establishing and maintaining positive relationships; and, 
  • Making responsible decisions. 

This program was designed BY educators FOR educators, and most instructors of these programs will agree that it is fun and rewarding to learn alongside the students as each lesson is taught.

No formal program training is required; you can immediately begin teaching the lessons, as you will see from the sample lessons below.

However, for those who would like to more deeply understand the context and neuroscience behind the Choose Love Formula™ we have developed a no cost, for credit (3 hours) Professional Development course (Choose Love Educator Training) that can be accessed following registration.

We also offer onboarding support, keynote speaker kickoffs, and more fee-based support programs here. 

Q:  What sets Choose Love For Schools™ apart from other SEL programs?

A:  Choose Love For Schools™ is aligned with the new Character and Social Emotional Development Standards (CSED).  These standards include BOTH and CASEL’s standards. 

It also aligns with Common Core and ASCA Mindsets and Behaviors. 

Choose Love For Schools™ goes beyond these standards and ALSO incorporates Growth Mindset, Neuroscience, Mindfulness, Positive Psychology, Post-Traumatic Growth and Emotional Intelligence into the lessons.

Q:  How much does Choose Love for Schools™ cost?

A:  It is a NO-COST next-generation program.  

Q:  Does Choose Love For Schools™ align with the new CASEL Framework and Definition of SEL?

A:  Yes!  Choose Love For Schools™ was developed prior to CASEL’s new definition and framework which was updated in November 2020.  As Choose Love For Schools™ was written by educators for educators, our team consciously and thoughtfully developed the new curriculum with a more universal view which includes diversity, social justice, and inclusion.

Q:  How is Choose Love For Schools™ different from the Original Choose Love Enrichment Program™?

A:  Created in 2020 and completed in February 2021, the next-generation Choose Love For Schools™ builds upon the innovative foundation of the Original Choose Love Enrichment Program™ by being the first program to also incorporate the CSED model standards.  We’ve also centered the Pre-K through Grade 5 lessons around literature from a variety of cultures and ethnicities which helps to teach diversity, social justice and inclusion.  Finally, Choose Love For Schools™ was designed to support both classroom and remote learning environments, offering Google Slides as visual lesson support and interactive digital activities, worksheets, etc.

Q:  How does Choose Love For Schools™ encourage family involvement?  Community?

A:  Choose Love For Schools™ units include a Caregiver Connection section that offers links to videos, activities and discussion topics from our Choose Love at Home program that was designed for quick, easy family instruction.   

Many of the Choose Love For Schools™ lessons encourage learners to think about ways they can apply the lessons to improving their communities, and we also proudly offer programs developed for Community organizations and for Athletes and Youth Leadership development because we are committed to helping extend the benefits of the Choose Love Formula™ beyond the classroom.

Q:  Does Choose Love address racism, diversity, inclusion, and social justice?

A: Yes!  Choose Love For Schools™ teaches diversity, social justice and inclusion through multicultural literature (grades Pre-K-5,) group activities, videos, and contemplative questioning.  Students learn how we are all the same and how to value and celebrate our differences. 

Multicultural literature has the power to unite children from different cultural and ethnic backgrounds.  When students learn to appreciate differences they realize there is beauty in our diverse and blended world.  They learn to take different perspectives, and develop respect and compassion when they learn about various cultures.  Students also see themselves represented in literature and learn to develop self-love and self-compassion, they are able to empathize and sympathize with diverse characters. 

Students develop a greater understanding of other people’s perspectives and experiences. Having perspective is a crucial element for promoting peace, acceptance, and love.   

Q: Does Choose Love fit into the Multi-Tiered Systems of Support Model  (MTSS?)

A: Within the three levels of MTSS, Choose Love can be a universal support to ALL students. It can also be utilized in small groups with targeted support to provide short-term intervention by a counselor, or intervention teacher.  Choose Love For Schools™ is not a therapeutic program and may not be appropriate for intensive, individualized support and intervention for students with more intensive needs.

Q: Does the program address self-harm and/or suicide prevention?

A: Choose Love For Schools™ addresses the cause of the suffering that often leads to self- harm.  Choose Love For Schools™ is not intended to be a replacement for therapy. Choose Love For Schools™ is an educational model, not a therapeutic model, and does not attempt to diagnose or provide therapeutic instruction.  The Choose Love For Schools™ curriculum can be easily adopted by Educators, Counselors and Social Workers. 

Q:  Why is literature central to the Pre-K through Grade 5 lessons in the new Choose Love For Schools™?  

A:  The literature component is not necessary to teach the four pillars of the Choose Love Formula™; however, each book was hand-selected by our team in order to teach diversity, inclusion, and social justice.  The literature component is also what sets Choose Love For Schools™ apart.  Experiencing the literature and going on the journey with the characters emphasizes the Choose Love Formula™: Courage + Gratitude + Forgiveness + Compassion in Action = Choosing Love

Literature is the pathway to the heart and connections with others.  It fosters positive self-esteem and empathy, supports inclusion, and nurtures respect and acceptance among students.  When students realize everyone feels the same emotions, no matter the color of their skin, where they come from, what language they speak, or how they look, they realize their similarities are more than their differences. 

Q:  Does Choose Love For Schools™ require training in order to implement?

A:  NO!  The curriculum is written so that the educators can learn alongside their students.  There is very little preparation required, making it easy to teach and easy to learn.  We do, however, offer additional training and support which you can learn more about here.

Q:  How long does each lesson take to complete?

A:  Pre-K through 1st grade lessons take approximately 15-20 minutes; 2nd and 3rd take approximately 20-30 minutes; 4th and 5th take approximately  30-45 minutes.  The lessons are designed to be completely flexible.  They may be completed in one session or broken into smaller sessions throughout the day or over the week. 

Q:  Does the Jesse Lewis Choose Love Movement offer professional development opportunities?

A:  Yes!  Our team will connect you with your state ambassador who can help facilitate tailor-made professional development for your specific needs. Learn more here.

Access to the complete programs by grade level, including supporting visual materials, a complete Educator Guide, Implementation Best Practices and more can be accessed following this brief registration process.  By registering your classroom, school or other instructional setting you will assist us in scaling our resources to ensure continued support for the programs.


We invite you to bring Lesson 1 of our COURAGE Unit into your classroom (or remote instruction environment) and experience the transformative power of this program for yourself.

Each Lesson has 2 parts:

  1. Lesson Plan that is viewable online as a PDF or downloadable
  2. Accompanying Google Slides presentation, intended for visual support of lesson but not as replacement for Lesson Plan. 

Beneath the Google Slides viewer, which allows you to present the slides directly via the lesson page, we have included a direct link to the Google presentation as well as a downloadable Powerpoint version of the slideshow.  The downloadable Powerpoint offers you the flexibility to edit the slides and/or upload them as Google Slides to your own Google Classroom/school server.

Also available for each grade level upon registration are digital/printable worksheets and supporting visuals to accompany each lesson, a growing library of interactive activities to support remote learning, an Implementation and Best Practices Guide, a Trauma-Informed Teaching tutorial, links to third party resources, a robust Educator Guide, and a Caregiver Connection collection of instructional videos, discussion topics and activities for each unit, in both english and spanish, for parents and caregivers.

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Please note: this lesson refers to a video and/or discussion about the story of Jesse Lewis that was part of Lesson 6 in the Choosing Love In Our Brave New World unit grades 9-12, which was presented as follows:

“Today, you are going to meet Scarlett Lewis. Her son left a message on her chalk board that sparked the Choose Love Movement. You will hear about Jesse’s message and the Choose Love Formula. Our collective goal throughout this program is to Have a Lot of Fun and to Be Courageous, just as Jesse demonstrated in his short lifetime.”

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**This video touches on the Sandy Hook tragedy and Jesse’s death. If you would prefer to skip that portion, you can start the video at 51 seconds.

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